I don't have that problem with my Am's but I've got Barnevelders that lay an almost perfectly round egg and there is no way I can tell sometimes. Candling always reveals the aircell. Since the Am eggs are easier to candle, I imagine it's the same with your eggs.
I do not know with any degree of certainty whatsoever about who contributes to egg shape but my guess would be the female has the greater influence since it is her system that gives the egg it's shape. I would also be more inclined to believe that is the case because of my breeding. Using the same male on different females has produced offspring with egg shape the same as their mother in both my Am's and my Barnies.
Duane, just FYI, I sent you an email a couple days ago. Did ya get it?